Feelings

There are no BAD or GOOD feelings. 

All are welcomed and need to be felt for us to grow as human beings. 

We have been trained all our lives to run away from feeling the so-called “bad” feelings and by learning to do so we can not allow ourselves to feel the so-called “good” feelings.

If you ask someone “How do you feel?”, they will answer “I am fine”.

Not that I am feeling sad or happy or disappointed or thrilled or really excited or even full of joy. 

We are numbed…we do not feel. 

We turn into our logic and mind and we forget our heart. 

Why?

Because we have been well-programmed for decades to do so. 

When we were young, babies or even kids, we expressed our feelings all the time: fear, sadness, joy, and happiness; we would express our feelings every change we got. 

The adults though told us

“Shhh, don’t cry”

“Don’t be sad and disappointed, it is OK”

“Why do you laugh so hard, are you mad?”

“Be quite, you will disturb others”

And we learned not to feel…not to express our emotions and show them; we learned to keep them well inside, silenced them even deep within us. 

We learned to reject ourselves and our feelings and satisfy others to be accepted and loved. 

We learned to not feel any emotions, not only the sadness and fear and pain…we learned to not feel the joy and happiness. 

Because all emotions fit in a fist: if you have it close, you don’t feel any, if you open them you will feel them all. 

I suppose I used to feel all emotions when I was young; I ended up shutting them all through to become the person that others wanted me to become. And I succeeded because my need to make other people happy was so big and being accepted was so important to me. 

The last 9 years I have been opening up, feeling and my transformation has been phenomenal. 

It hasn’t been easy. 

I had to be in a trusted environment where I was accepted and loved exactly as I was feeling ALL emotions. 

And I started feeling the pain, the sorrow, the sadness and then feeling happy and joyful. 

In this process I realised that I had been feeling so alone for so many years; being detached from my own feelings, I was feeling detached from my own self, my needs and wants and I was alone. 

And I had friends, I was socialising, I had close relationships…still, I was deeply alone. 

I started feeling all emotions and that led me to feel my body deeply. 

You see, even if we block them, our feelings are being felt by our body…the body always knows. 

This is why suddenly we may feel our head aching or our shoulders tensed or our back in pain. 

Our feelings are felt by our bodies; the moment you start feeling all emotions, you allow yourself to be true to you. 

You give permission to exist exactly as you are; you stop betraying yourself and you belong. 

Firstly, you belong to you, your own truth and then you can belong anywhere and with anybody. 

Feeling can be seen as NOT betraying your own self. 

Feeling can be regarded as saying YES to you and your truth. 

Feeling is BEING truly ALIVE. 

FEEL today. 

Give permission to yourself to feel all emotions. 

You are not going to die from feeling; you are going to LIVE by accepting yourself. 

Do it and let me know how it will go. 

I would love to receive emails to [email protected] telling me the emotions that you felt that you were blocking for years. 

The freedom, the acceptance, the joy and ease you are going to feel, it will be phenomenal. 

FEEL.